The Five Planets Within Us

Roland Y. Kim, Ph.D.

About This Book

A developmental map of love, conflict, compatibility, and growth. The book moves beyond simple gender stereotypes to explore five developmental worlds operating beneath relationship conflict: Mercury, Mars, Venus, Earth, and Jupiter.

What You Will Explore

Explore how safety, counter-dependence, care and reparation, independence, empathy, and integration shape relationships; why dependence is not intimacy and counter-dependence is not independence; and how the Five-by-Five Interaction Matrix reveals different relational worlds.

A Developmental Question

What developmental world am I standing in right now, what world is my partner standing in, and can we meet without requiring either person to disappear?