Jealousy and Envy

From Possession and Comparison to Participation

Roland Y. Kim, Ph.D.

About This Book

Why can another person’s love, success, talent, or happiness sometimes feel threatening? This book follows jealousy and envy developmentally—from attachment insecurity and comparison through shame, rivalry, guilt, reparation, freedom, admiration, and the capacity to participate in another person’s good without experiencing it as one’s own loss.

What You’ll Explore

Attachment and the fear of losing the good object; comparison and status; shame and narcissistic injury; malicious and benign envy; guilt and reparation; love without possession; freedom from comparison; admiration; permanent asymmetry; helping another surpass us; parental letting-go; developmental regression; and movement from possession toward participation.

Who This Book Is For

For readers interested in relationships, self-worth, rivalry, parenting, achievement, and the developmental transformation of jealousy and envy.